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I’m Sorry…But

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I’m sorry… but when you say “I’m sorry” and then follow it with the word “but,” your apology comes off as insincere.

Here’s a pych tip for you:  If you are really sorry but still feel the need to justify your actions or words, do so before you apologize.  For example, you could say, “When I said/did ABC, I was feeling XYZ. I know I was wrong in the way I went about saying/doing it.  I want you to know that I’m truly sorry for ABC.”

Stating your apology this way allows you to indicate your own feelings without negating your apology.  Ending with “I’m sorry.” is more likely to put the person you are apologizing to, in a more accepting state of mind, thus you are more likely to get a more peaceful resolution.   Saying “I’m sorry but…” automatically puts the person you’re apologizing to in a defensive position and then he or she is more likely to simply see you as just a sorry butt.

Double Talk Quote: “I’m sorry…but” – Anyone guilty?  Comment below

Bible Verse: “Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger” – Ephesians 4:26

Word that has Lost its meaning: sorry

Relatable Lyrics: It’s too late to apologize – Timberland https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2gzt6GeNLBk

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