I am a twin mom, a mom of multiples, a mom of many. I also have bipolar disorder and Anxiety issues. There are moments, that I know other moms share, when I want to scream and pull my hair out. But instead, I KISS myself.
When life is coming at me too hard, too fast, and too strong, and I feel that stress building I (try to) remind myself “Keep It Simple & Silly” (Adapted from the slogan “Keep It Simple, Stupid” I won’t speak stupidity over myself or my kids, regardless of the not-so-smart things we sometimes do). And instead of calling myself “Silly” I try to keep the situation from becoming too serious, because, let’s face it, in the scope of eternity, it probably is silly.
Here are a few easy mom things that can simplify your life and make things a little less hectic (I plan to write a future article with even more helpful tricks, but these relate to keeping things simple during potentially stressful moments.):
1. Invest some time in getting organized. Get in the habit of putting things back exactly where they belong or you’ll lose your head (along with your keys, cell phone, remote control, diaper bag, etc).
2. For moms with young kids, keep your main diaper bag in the car and only carry around a basics bag when you go places. (Mine has 2 diapers for each baby, a few wipes, 1 juice box per child, and maybe 1 small toy per babe that only comes out with that bag). Try to keep your basics bag small enough to fit in a bigger purse or small backpack so you only have to carry around one bag for everyone!
3. Have dinner figured out by 10 a.m. This will help you remember to thaw out anything that needs it and you’ll avoid any evening scrounge sessions.
4. When you feel like yelling, take a deep breath and whisper instead. It may take a few tries for your kids to catch on that when you whisper you mean business, but it’s a technique worth trying. You’d be surprised, even my husband knows I’m serious when I whisper.
5. Pick your battles. For example, little one wants to wear her butterfly wings to the store and refuses to put on her socks and shoes. Make a deal – let her keep the wings but insist on shoes. Some things just aren’t worth the fit.
6. Finally, KISS your precious little ones – Keep It Simple & Silly – enjoy the ride and don’t get too stressed. Focus on what’s right, not what’s going wrong. Sometimes that hard to do in the heat of the moment. But ask yourself this: ten years from now, will this really matter? The answer is probably “no.” What will matter is the relationship you have with your children and how they remember you growing up. You want their childhood experience as well as your parenting experience to be positive ones.
(Twins 2, Mica 8, Hope 7)
Double Talk Story: I was explaining how to play football when my phone fell. Mica laughs hysterically, “You dropped your cell phone while charging!” (play on words – I was literally charging)
Bible Verse: “Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.” Proverbs 18:21
Term that had Lost its meaning: date night
Relatable Lyrics: “Sing” by The Carpenters