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Excuse me?  Huh?  What?  Are you serious?  Do my ears deceive me?  How do you figure? Did you really just say that?  The questions raced through my brain.  Unfortunately, our conversation was abruptly interrupted (betcha can’t guess how) and I didn’t get a chance to ask the veteran mom-of-twins any of these questions before we had to leave.

Right after my babes were born, I asked a fellow mom-of-twins, whose boys were nine years old, if she had any wisdom or advice for me.  She bluntly told me that she didn’t remember anything from the first two years due to the stress, lack of sleep, and chaos that having two babies at one time brings.  She was the first of many mom-of-twins to tell me that the first two years are a blur.

I wondered if the veteran mom who made the title comment had contracted the ever-so-prevalent fugue state illness, known as “Mommy Brain.”  Earlier in our conversation, she mentioned that her twins were in kindergarten.  I’ve heard that by this age twins “entertain themselves,” (although moms have to be more vigilant of competitiveness and more attentive to conflict intervention / resolution).  Maybe over the past three years she, too had forgotten the first few years.  Or maybe she just had easy babies.   Or Maybe she’s just a better mom than me.  Or maybe she finds it easier because she doesn’t have Bipolar disorder.  So many maybes…

I’ve been a mom to a “singleton.”  It wasn’t easy.  It wasn’t that she was disobedient or misbehaved, or out of hand.  Being a mom is a lot of work. (You’ve read the Mommy Resume!)  As I’ve written before, “here’s my equation:  Double that (2 year old twins) + 8-year-old daughter + marital challenges + financial difficulties + changing environment (baby Asher leaving, 7-year old Hope becoming like a 4th child to me) + Bipolar disorder & anxiety issues = “’God I need your help’”

So the veteran mom is a SuperMom for sure, as are many of my other friends and acquaintances who have multiples or multiple children.  Just because I’m not as confident or centered doesn’t mean I’m not a SuperMommy too!  And here’s why:

Because God helps me get through day by day, minute by minute.  Regardless of whether they are taking turns napping, throwing food across the table at one another, having meltdowns, or pulling their diapers off and running away from me.  I have the patience to deal with whatever comes my way, simply because God works through me daily and I feel privileged to have the above equation.  

God gave me a lot of responsibilities because he wanted to show himself through me.  He wants to be glorified in me.  If I had had a singleton instead of twins, then maybe I wouldn’t have felt the need to lean on Him so much.  And with this great responsibility comes great joy.

And if anyone ever tells you that “Twins are So Much Easier Than a Singleton,” you have my permission to tell them that it has been scientifically proven that that simply is not true!  (You have the archives of my blog as evidence to back it up.)

Double Talk Quote:  Me to Bella, who was throwing a fit “What’s the big problem here?”  “Dada!”  (I still don’t know the details but he did something to make her raging mad!)

Bible Verse: “…From everyone who has been given much, much will be demanded; and from the one who has been entrusted with much, much more will be asked.” Luke 12:48

Word that had Lost its meaning (there for a minute): confidence

Relatable Lyrics:  My own personal lyrics to DJ Khaled’s “All I Do Is Win”

All I Do is Twin!

All I do is twin twin twin no matter what
Got laundry on my mind I can never get it done
And every time I step up in the buildin’
Everybody hands go up
And they stay there
And they say yeah
And they stay there
Up down, up down, up down
‘Cause all I do is twin twin twin
And if you goin’ in put your hands in the air
Make ’em stay there

I never go no where
But they saying Mommy’s back…
My hands go up and down like babies’ booty’s go…
Y’all better count me in
Got empty bank accounts, accountants count me zip…
Cause all I do, all I, all I, all I
All I do is…Twin!

Money Shot - My Earthquakers - Micaela and twins1

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Comments on: "“Twins are So Much Easier Than a Singleton…”" (17)

  1. Yeah – I have to say that I had 3 kids and felt fine packing them up and doing anything I wanted to do. Didn’t mind my hubby being out of town – as a matter of fact I kind of liked it! But then again, I had kids that were MUCH EASIER than yours! Especially when it came to getting them to bed. I can remember my hubby being gone at night, and after the kids went to bed, I’d happily work on some sort of project (usually sewing). If I had your kids, I’d still be struggling to get them to bed at a decent time. Brooksie has a shirt that says, “My parents are exhausted.” I’m going to get that shirt and paint a few more words. “My Grandma too.”

    Also last night, Bella was mad at Mica and wanted to spank her butt. She was laying down on the floor, crying and pitching a fit. Mica and Amor were laughing their heads off at her, and of course, that was making her madder (she wants sympathy, not someone laughing at her!). And Brooksie was oblivious – he was busy kicking a ball around. It reminded me of you and Sarah when Sarah’s crawdad fell in the toilet – one screaming upset and the other one couldn’t stop laughing!

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  2. And as for the twins entertaining each other, I think that would be easier if the twins were the same sex. Brooksie is all rough and tumble, and we all have to look out for Bella constantly.

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  3. Um, have I told you lately how amazing you are as a person, a writer, a creative soul, and a SuperMommy?

    You are all of the above and much more.

    And Michell,e I will never, I repeat never tell you or write you or sing you anything that remotely sounds like “Twins are so much easier than a singleton”!

    (Well, as you know, I don’t have twins, but I promise never to say any of that anyway, LOL!)

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    • Umm, yeah, that sounds a little familiar but please don’t stop singing my praises, you always boost my confidence 😉

      And thanks, I know your daughters are only a few years apart so you know the struggles of having little ones plus Bipolar disorder to deal with. You know better than most how difficult it can be!

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  4. p.s. absolutely beautiful and adorable and funny pictures of you all! I wouldn’t expect anything less!

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  5. Belle, you are SuperMommy and it boggles my brain that someone told you that twins are easier!! I am constantly in awe of you and all you do and are able to accomplish and your positive attitude and trust in God!!
    I cleaned my kitchen on Friday, and didn’t clean again until Monday. When Monday rolled around, I looked at the kitchen and just burst out laughing. How is it possible for two people with one child to have a kitchen this messy from just a weekend??! I have so much respect for parents with more than one child; not to mention more than one of the same age!!

    That is absolutely heartbreaking about Bella!!! I want to cry. Grandma you’re right: she needed sympathy in that moment, not to be laughed at. ;'((

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    • Thank you Sars, your words of encouragement mean so much to me!

      I look at my house every day and laugh too. Well, sometimes I cry, but I usually take it in stride 😉

      I wasn’t in the room for the Bella incident but I wouldn’t worry too much. She is a delicate one, but she’s tough too, in her own little way. And she usually gets the sympathy and understanding she needs.

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  6. I do not know how you do it! One was enough for me. And she is a step-child. Although I can argue the case that I had many more as all her friends seem to have always been under my care as well!

    God give you strength! Glad I am old(er) now!!!

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  7. survivingbutterfly said:

    I nominated you for the Sunshine blogger award! Here is the link homemakersunited.wordpress.com/2016/09/02/sunshine-blogger-award/

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  8. Hi . I have subscribed to your feed . U have a new follower now . Your posts are so relatable & resonating since I’m also an incomplete mother with twins . My journey ended half-way . But I’m assure u , I enjoy browsing your feeds . I have read a few of them today . W’ll look back again tomorrow . Hope your kids are doing good ? Convey my love & warmth to them . And this was indeed a valuable post . U lessened my apprehensions & insecurities . This is a relieving post . Thank u so much for sharing .

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  9. My sister just had twin boys and of course I did my Auntie duty and babysat. Let me just tell you I’m a mother of 7 so I’m like I got this! boy was I wrong they tagged teamed me.lol now they can’t sleep over at aunties house until they are older.

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